I feel AP (attachment parenting) is a great style of parenting. I agree with many aspects of it. I know it doesn't work for everyone. Some people would go crazy with it. I, for one, never thought I would be a co-sleeping mother who hesitates to spank. I never thought I'd breastfeed beyond a year. Nor did I think I would actually enjoy all of those things as much as I did/do(especially co-sleeping!).
Having said all that, do you really think AP is a prelude to divorce?
Richard does. He makes a good, valid point that there have been no studies regarding the effects attachment parenting has on a couple's marriage. However, I just don't see any way he can be correct in this, or where I can agree. Attachment Parenting involves the parentS- plural, the mother AND the father. I don't know many families that co-sleep if one parent is against it.
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I have a friend who did major AP and it put a huge strain on their marriage. They waited years before having a second because her husband said "when we have a baby it's years where I am put to the side". That sounded a little nuts until she told me the type of AP she did. She basically was completely consumed with the child and neglected the rest of her life, including her marriage. can't have sex because the kid is in the bed - why not go someplace else insteead you would think!?!? There has to be a balance.
Same thing, just because you're a mom doesn't mean you are no longer a wife and individual. The main point of I always thought of Catholic AP, is that babies and children want love according to their NEEDS and spouses have their needs too. That means you don't have to do everything the best way or be perfect, either as a mother or a wife.
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