Monday, May 15, 2006

Working Moms Healthier, Thinner Than Stay at Homes

This according to a study conducted by researches with the test group being British mothers.
Researchers tracked the health of a group of
British women from their mid-20s to their mid-50s and found that full-time
homemakers were the most likely to be obese in their sixth decade.
Women in
long-term relationships who had raised kids while they held jobs outside the
home were least likely to be overweight, and they also reported being in better
overall health.
Women who had been homemakers for all or
most of their lives and who had not held outside jobs were most likely to report
that they were in poor health, followed by mothers without partners, and
childless women.
Women who had worked during several periods of their lives
were less likely to be obese than women who had rarely worked.
At first I took this article as a hard slap in the face. It seems that the media (and much of society) is always try to make stay-at-home moms seem downplayed, negative, and a waste. Somehow women who choose to actaully stay home and take care of their family, and raise their own children, get criticzed and ridiculed.

Iam still upset that the article didn't mention much about the happiness and psychological health of these women. After all, both of those have a tremendous effect on our physical health. The was the only thing mentioned in the article,
But the findings also suggested that the stresses associated
with holding down a job while raising small children take their toll on women’s
health.
Does not the stress of actually taking care of your own children, 24 hours a day, cause stress? does that not affect one's health? I know it bothers me because once again, SAHMs are not seen as working moms. Listen up people! WE WORK! WE WORK HARDER THAN MOST!! What other job are you on duty with NO days off, truly around the clock? No other job. And equally, no other job means as much and rewards accordingly.

After thinking about it a little more, I don't take it as the hard slap I first did. There was evidence here that certain women were not as healthy PHYSICALLY as others. I almost find it embarassing and shameful. WHY are those other working moms in better health?
It's a conviciton. I feel it can be a wake-up call. ALL women should strive to be in their best health, both physucally and mentally. It is unfortunate that SAHMs have a bad rep for "letting themselves go". Staying home does not give us a ticket to forget our appearance and bodies. After all, keeping ourselves healthy is the best way to keep our families healthy.

So I am half & half happy/angry about this article. I wish our role as SAHMs could be shown as more important like it IS, and not as a job where women stay home and waste their time and bodies away. It is SUCH and important job. At the same time, I appreciate the truth that may be out there, even if it IS portrayed in a slanted manner.

3 comments:

Philothea Rose said...

I can totally see the truth in this article and am not offended by it at all. I know it from expereince. I think as a stay-at-home-mom, we forget about keeping oursleves up in health and appearance because we tend to be martyrs for our families or because we get lazy, and I agree that we need a wake-up call on this for moms on both ends of the spectrum. They need to learn that they are also worthy of care and nurturing.

And while I am in agreement that being a SAHM is a huge job with much stress, it has been since my kids have entered school that I really understand the stress of motherhood because you now have all the duties of mother PLUS a time you have to wake-up and get out the door and more appointments and commitments than one can imagine, especially if you have a lot of children. No more living on my own schedule I look at working women who try to do everything I do while holding down a job and I just want to give them a pillow. Whether they choose this life or not; they must be tired! I don't think the stress comes from having so much to do, but from the pressure of feeling like you have to do it and have it ALL!.

Anonymous said...

You are so right. If there ever REALLY was a day where the expectation on a mother was not for her to raise her kids, clean the house, AND work an outside full-time job, I want to go back to that day! I want to not be ridiculed for giving my ALL to my family.

But WHY do SAHMs often let themselves go? I think a large part of it is that we get comfy where we are, and being the only adults in the house all day, there is no competition or reminder of other adults like in thw workplace. There is never a good reason for a person to let go of their bodies and let their health go. It's just a hard truth, I suppose.

PB said...

When you work at an office with a full time professional job, you have peer pressure from your fellow coworkers to keep you focused on loosing weight and maintaining your physical appearance, in a sort of “Keeping up with the Jones’ ” fashion. You also have a boss pushing you to succeed on the job which helps you focus on your professional life and therefore translating into personal strive for your physical appearance. A company needs to operate like a well oiled machine and offers a great deal of structure to its employees in the process. People who stay at home with their children are that boss, the household is their company. It is much easier having a boss to tell you what to do then to be the boss and delegate the household responsibilities and according to this study, a lot of stay at home mothers simply lack the organization skills to manage their own lives in the process.
This study is sad but true. What I find most irritating is that they section out stay at home moms to nitpick. The fact of the matter is that anyone who works for themselves, or works out of their home, or doesn’t work at all regardless of having a family or not is in this same category. It is a shameless attempt to find a correlation between laziness and stay at home mothers when in reality it is only pointing out laziness, which has many faces other then stay at home mothers.
Typically when a research study is formed, the researcher himself already knows what he wants to prove, he just needs the evidence to support it. This evidence here supports his argument, but doesn’t prove a thing based only on association. Laziness is laziness whether you stay at home or not.